I didn’t change my surname after marriage for some reasons. While it was convenient at that time not to go through the paper work of getting my name changed on each and every document that I possessed, this situation continues to create several problems till date. The most recent one being, I had asked a travel agency to book air tickets for the 3 of us. After a telephonic discussion with them I sent them a mail with our names and details of flights to be booked. When we got the tickets, we noticed that hubby and daughter had been given my surname in the tickets. Only after many more telephone calls, we could get this rectified. And this is not the first time this has happened. But what surprises me this time is that these guys are travel agents. They must be dealing with several such cases everyday, then how could they do a blunder like this. Surely, this situation of husband and wife having different surnames is pretty common nowadays. And we live in a metro city. I can only imagine how the situation of a couple with different surnames would be in a small city.
Some years back when I was getting registered in a hospital during my pregnancy, the receptionist asked me my name, surname and hubby’s name (lets call him “Hubby Dear”) . And when I saw the file, I see that my name is written as “Life Hubby Song”. Can you imagine this?? I had tough time convincing them that this is wrong “You can’t attach hubby’s name with my surname when we both have different surnames”. These guys went on to blame me that all this confusion was because I had not changed my surname which was wrong. I should have changed my surname post marriage as per tradition.
Confusions like hubby being addressed as Mr. Song and me as Mrs. Dear are pretty common. We have to keep clarifying our names. We have to be specially alert when we are applying for any document. We check and double check that our names are written correctly. It is difficult to keep explaining and giving reasons to anyone and everyone that why I didn’t change my surname after marriage. For this reason I attach my hubby’s surname after my full name in social networking sites where I have several relatives as friends.
Sometimes, I wonder if life would have been easier had I changed my surname. Why is it so difficult for the society to accept anything that is non traditional?